Building a Family
Building a family through adoption can be one of the most satisfying experiences life has to offer.
The process for adoption begins with submitting an application, followed by a home study and home visit. The home study is a requirement for anyone applying for adoption — whether domestic, inter-country, agency or private. We provide support and education for you throughout this process.
While we specialize in domestic adoptions in Louisiana, we also provide home study adoption services for those who have chosen to adopt from another country through the inter-country agency of your choice.
quotes from board members, staff, & adoptive parents
Sometimes it’s what you don’t know that is the frightening part. And of course, adopting couples come with so many misgivings at times. Not about the adoption, but about the process. And what we do is to help them understand that process and let that process be so natural that they’re not fearful of it. Prior to the actual adopting of the child, there are many meetings and individual meetings with the social worker and groups so they can express their reservations or their lack of understanding...
And so, there’s comfort here. There’s knowledge here. And there’s understanding that they can pick up the telephone and call and get answers. In today’s adoption community and climate there’s a lot of back and forth between birth parents and the adopting couple which tends to mitigate a lot of the perceived fears when they don’t know what’s going to happen. I think that it’s that little bit of lagniappe that the staff is always available. That there’s a lot of interaction, that adopting couples and birth parents can both be put at ease in their individual needs.
Lillie Petit Gallagher
When did you start thinking about adoption?
After years of infertility, three in vitro fertilizations, several miscarriages, my husband and I thought maybe we would look into the adoption option. My only regret with that is I didn’t do it sooner. But you have to go through all the emotions of wanting your own child. When we finally came to the idea that we would look into adoption, to me, it was just a reminder that God is in control. His answer for you is always better than what you think it should’ve been. I was devastated for not being able to get pregnant and have my own child.
But then I laid eyes on my son. All that just went out the window, because it was no longer important. What was important was that I was a mother. And so that was my journey from going from just sheer devastation to just exhilaration and the whole beauty of being a parent. It really doesn’t matter how you get there. It’s just that you’re there.
You know, birth is a miracle, but adoption is also a miracle. I look at my two children. And I look at them, and of all the places they could be, that’s the miracle that they’re with us.
When a birthmother first arrives at St. Elizabeth she’s typically confused, frightened ... looking for someone to help her to make that decision and to do it in a way that gives her hope, that not only will she be able to make this choice and do it, and come out on the other side feeling good about it, but that she will have hope for the future ...
Do you think there’s a stigma around adoption?
It seems like adoption doesn't carry the stigma it might have 20, 30, 40 years ago. I have two adoptive daughters. I was surprised. It seems like the majority of the people I talk to know somebody or one of their relatives is connected to the adoptive process somehow. Adoption is much more prevalent than I ever would have imagined.
What was the defining moment when you adopted your child?
The defining moment was when they placed Christina [our daughter] in our arms. And you just know that this baby was meant for you. And it’s just divine intervention that this is how your family is going to be made, with this baby that you’ve just held for the first time that was born just hours before.